Talk To Someone
Sitting alone, spinning around and around inside your own head is a recipe for disaster. A much better plan is to vent it out. This means some sort of talk therapy.
Discuss what’s eating you
You can use a friend, a psychiatrist, a psychologist, your minister, preacher or rabbi, your family, a counselor at an advocacy center, group sessions at meetings designed for depressed or bipolar people, your dog or cat, or whatever it takes. (I solved a lot of the big problems because my dog was so understanding.) Just get it out.
Learn to be retrospective
- Search the past and pick through your heart.
- See if you can identify patterns or wrong choices that may have helped lead you to where you are now.
- Inspect the flow of your life and the mentors you’ve chosen. Evaluate your friendships over time.
- Understand who influences you most and why, and what has that lead you to?
- What key events have caused you to make a right when you should have made a left?
- What has impacted you greatly but been discounted by you as something less?
Learn to be introspective
- Look inside yourself with severe honesty and learn what really drives you as a person.
- Why do you feel and think as you do?
- How have your decision-making skills shaped your life to bring you to this point?
- What are your beliefs about life, people, God, health habits, and your own ability to succeed?
- Can you see some beliefs that have clearly not stood up to the test of time?
- Can you see how something you have hung on to and believed in, never really brought you what you think it should have?
In brief: Why is your life as it is?
These are heavy questions and the answers will change everything about your experience of life as you discover them.
Centerpointe will cause you to be able to develop the thinking necessary and remove the blocks that currently hide the answers from you.
But you need to do some extra work and that is to TALK!
This can lead to brand new problems as you begin to source your listening audience. Who is willing to listen to your depressive thoughts, your manic thoughts?
It is an exhausting chore for certain people you may wish to open up to. There’s a good chance that your family is already burned out. It’s no one’s fault. It just is.
A therapist of any kind can seem too detached or give advice that you can clearly see is no good. The wrong person will not be able to understand your pain well enough to relate.
You will pick up on this wall between you and it will hamper your ability to share deeply, which you desperately need. And if the other person doesn’t understand fully, then what’s the point?
But there are other people out there with big hearts and an ability to listen, right in your own backyard. You just need to patiently find them out.
If you pick a wrong candidate once, or many times, don’t give up
Keep working on yourself with all I teach and keep looking for the right person to listen.
Many people try once or maybe twice, don’t like their therapists for any number of reasons, and quit looking entirely. If you want to be well again, you don’t have that option.The more you talk (while doing everything else I ask) the more you’ll be able to see the picture that is YOU.