Constantly peering inside heads, I am.
Mine and yours.
Looking for clues, patterns, answers.
Regardless of all else happening in my day, I am constantly aware of, and trying to discern why, I and those around me are doing anything like we are.
Why do we think the way we do? How do we choose what to focus our energy on? What happened to any of us that causes us to feel and believe the things we do?
What part of us can we consciously affect change upon to get the life we want?
For myself, it’s a matter of improving my :
- Efficiency (doing a thing while creating the least amount of waste)
- Efficacy (making sure that what I am doing is actually useful)
- Productivity (increasing how much of a thing I can do)
- Proactivity (solving a problem before it even happens)
- Relatability (becoming aware of a wider variety of states of mind and circumstances)
- Objectivity (making decisions without being swayed by emotion or judgment)
- Likeability (appealing to a broader range of people, to expose myself to more options)
- Discernability (knowing when and how much of myself to invest in any of these areas)
- Flexibility (being able to relax my own rules enough to see the other person’s point of view)
- Adaptability (easily going with the flow and still getting my needs met)
- Plasticity (remaining able to learn new things at a steady rate)
- Communicability (sharing a message in a way that meets all the above criteria)
There are more “-itys” I nurture but those above are constantly in my awareness.
Kind of trippy, now that I see them all laid out like that. But I’m serious. I stay aware of all of these things at all times.
I revisit my performance in each, immediately after anything of any importance. Then again, while meditating on my past, in order to detect patterns.
The patterns can be friend or foe
Seeing the forest for the trees is something that can be accomplished right away, or it might be something that can only be discovered in retrospect.
And what you find may delight or mortify you. (I am, admittedly, mortified, more than I’d like to admit.)
You’re either nailing it or veering wildly off course. And it’s not always clear which way is which.
But you must enhance your ability to spot them if you’re on any kind of a larger mission, even if it’s just to be a better person.
Matter of fact, it really starts with just trying to be a better person
That’s how Ken’s Road Trip began. I fixed a nightmare and focused on it for a bit with the world.
The bulk of the supplies page holds this material and was written during two stages of my life, three and nine years ago! Yet it forms the backbone of all I offer you now.
It addresses this “becoming a better person” side of all my work.
The only new material is about building and maintaining a platform, like the one you’re viewing, in order to share yourself with the world and make something bigger than yourself.
Very HUGE amount of info in its own right. But knowledge I’d never have gained without first transforming into something healthier.
And even that material was taught to me by people who, themselves, also focus heavily on the Becoming A Better Person aspects of all they do.
So, it really boils down to becoming a better student of people
And you’re a “people” too.
Your job is to figure out you first. But you can speed up the process by simultaneously trying to figure out those around you.
The two skills develop in tandem, never truly reach a finishing point, and feed one another’s growth in both directions.
Once you get an idea of your immediate group–the ones who need and want what you have–and your deeper sense of self, you go on to expand your scale of reach and audience size.
Or you identify, to perfection, the few who are for you and what you wish to achieve, and then go on to succeed at doing it.
I’m not even sure which way I’d prefer it to be at this point. But I think it’s easier to find that smaller group first.
Depending on what happens between you and this initial batch, you might decide to branch out and expand from there.
Never know if you don’t start. Ken’s Road Trip is me starting. You tell me if you’re in my group.