In the course of making your dreams come true, you’re going to end up hanging on certain mentors’ every word.
These people will have brought such relief to your life, possibly income, and such a sense of hope that you’re ready to fall on the sword for them.
Loyalty and respect is fine.
Fawning and worshiping is not
When you begin to hero worship your mentor, you are unconsciously, or quite possibly consciously, giving them the power over your life.
This can then go two ways from there and I’ve lived both.
- The scrupled mentor will be failing you if he allows it to continue and he or she will probably find some tactful way to help you cool your jets
- The unscrupled mentor will take you for all you’re worth
The good guy will not want it and tell you to knock it off.
It would be seen as an embarrassment or you’d never really be taken that seriously by that mentor.
If he had an inner circle, you’d never rate entry.
Also, by depending that greatly on another to fulfill all your hopes and dreams, or to blindly follow another’s every direction, is to take the yoke of responsibility off your own shoulders.
You are no longer laying claim to what is yours – good, bad, or indifferent.
You are trying to do something, accomplish something, that requires great personal fortitude and it will never appear until you pay that price.
You’ll never have what you want or deserve.
And, like I said above, the worst-case scenario may appear.
Someone in the mentor role, whom you trust implicitly, might just take you for all you are worth.
Some folks just don’t care. You are a sheep that came to them to be sheared and they’re professional shearers. Just doing their job.
Then there are mentors who themselves are weak and will just roll with your undying adoration because that’s what fuels their self worth.
Everybody’s everybody, you know? We all have faults. The only difference in any of us is if you are willing to find yours and fix them.
Mentors, lofty and powerful though they may be, are still people too.
Sometimes they need a self check.
Remember that mid-fawn, should such a thing take place for you somewhere down the line.
Showing respect and acting without hesitation for the right person is not the same thing
I’ve got mentors now that I’ll do anything for, no question. This is because they’ve proven their integrity to me.
But even with them I interact from a level playing field in my mind.
I don’t view them as better than me.
Just better at particular tasks than me. I respect them and wish to stay positioned favorably with them. That’s just good business.
But I don’t bow to them when they enter the room.
There is a way to be respectful to a powerful person and gain their respect at the same time.
And it’s done, in part, by coming from a position of strength.
Hey. I worshiped at a few feet a few more times than I’d care to admit. It happens along the journey.
I’m trying to tell you that it leads to nothing good and quite possibly to ruin.
Neither outcome seems too tasty to me. Stand strong and you’ll be respected for it by your mentor!
The photographer of this post’s featured photo: John Price